Communication in a relationship

 Hi guys, I am very excited to be here in another weekly blog! Today I am going to talk about a very common problem in relationships. This is good and bad communication in relationships. Communication problems can be present in any kind of relationship, not just romantic relationships, and it is one of the main factor that can determine the success or failure of a relationship.  

Each person has a different background and different ways of thinking. Sometimes things that might be totally normal for some people might not be for others, and that is ok. But for that reason, it is essential that people can have good communication and express their feelings to avoid misunderstandings. I think that sometimes in relationships, one can be mad at an attitude of their partner that might be very obvious to them, but if that person does not express what is bothering him or her, and how is feeling, the problem can grow and become a discussion. Due to that, it is important not to assume that our partner knows what we are feeling and why we are feeling it at that moment. Another problem of communication is when people prefer to not talk about their feelings because they do not want to create a conflict. When that happens, the person who is feeling bad for any attitude of their partner will probably be able to hide her emotions for a while but at some point, he or she will become so overwhelmed that can start a discussion for a little problem that could have been avoided is now a more complicated situation. 

Another thing very important in communication is non-verbal communication and tone. In average just 14% of our communication is our words. Our tone is 35% and our non-verbal communication is 51%. For that reason, it is very important to talk about any problem in person and not do it by text, because it is very easy to misunderstand the whole meaning and intention of a text.  

Another communication problem that some people can experience is when both of them come from different countries and cultures. That is because some normal things in one culture might be different, weird, or even rude in other cultures. For example, I had a boyfriend who is American. I am from Chile, so our cultures were totally different. A lot of times things that were normal for me were not normal for him, so we had to communicate a lot to understand our feelings and thoughts. There is a funny story from when we had just started to get to know each other. After a few times of dating we kissed, and he thought we were already in a relationship, but in Latinoamerica, the guy has to ask the girl if she wants him to be her girlfriend because if not anything is official yet.  

If we want to have success in our relationships, we have to learn how to improve our communication with our partners. It is important to have empathy and try to understand the other’s point of view. Something that is very good when we want to express our displeasure with a certain behavior of our partner is first; explaining which specific situation made us feel bad, then talk about your feelings, how do you feel when this happens? And then, why does that make you feel that way. 

If we try to communicate and understand our partner without judging them. We will be able to strengthen any kind of relationship in our lives. So, what do you think about this topic? How do you communicate with people around you? I would like to know! You can leave a comment and let us know.